"Help! My narcissistic ex is making my life unbearable. I feel so overwhelmed and hopeless on some days. How can I be a good parent when I'm so stressed out? The court didn't help, I've spent thousands on attorney fees, and I feel like nobody understands how manipulative my ex is. Can you help me?"

...is a common email I get far too often. The shame, stigma, and isolation surrounding high-conflict divorce can make co-parenting a nightmare. I have witnessed the contentious struggles and trauma from overwhelmed and now-single parents whose lives are upended following divorce. Although you bear the pain of seeing your kids less, and having your life dictated by the court order—there is hope for moving forward and defining Your Plan B.

You are not alone.

If you live outside of Los Angeles, California, I offer consultation sessions for co-parenting support. This is a telephone or Skype service, and it differs from psychotherapy. My state license to practice psychotherapy is limited to the state of California.

The difference between consultation and therapy is that I do not view your situation from a medical model/diagnose or treat, or focus on your past or your childhood, or analyze historical roots of negative self-beliefs and behaviors that create low self-esteem.

This article, published by PsychologyToday.com describes the 9 critical steps to successful co-parenting, following divorce from a narcissist, or difficult ex. On average, it is viewed 700+ times daily. Perhaps, you're here as a result...


What is Co-parenting Consultation?

The purpose is to develop a plan to help you:

  • manage your emotional reactions and reduce conflict with your ex
  • learn effective communication skills to avoid repetition of past arguments
  • support your child(ren) with the logistical and emotional challenges of two homes
  • implement parenting techniques to manage manipulation, rebellion and parental alienation
  • design a personal-care plan so you can experience less overwhelm, and more peace of mind
  • access psychological resources to help you and your child(ren) recover from the chaos and unpredictability
  • develop an action-oriented plan to support present and future emotional well-being

 

What Co-parenting Consultation is not

I understand how stressful and traumatic a high-conflict divorce and co-parenting with a difficult ex can be, however, the focus is on moving forward and developing goals to support you and your children emotionally.

When discussing your situation it can be tempting to delve into past grievances, and how you’ve been wronged by your ex, and the court process. While your story is definitely important, doing things differently now and in the future is the primary focus of our work together. And because your hard-earned money is not wisely spent on, "And how does that make you feel?" (we both know it feels terrible), we jump into problem-solving strategies within the first 15 minutes. For these reasons, boundaries are critical.

  • Co-parenting Consultation is not psychotherapy
  • Co-parenting Consultation does not offer legal advice, or child custody mediation
  • Co-parenting Consultation is not designed to deal with psychological crises, or life threatening situations
  • Co-parenting Consultation is not a resource for reporting allegations of child abuse, or threats of personal, or others’ safety

 

What is the cost to participate in Co-parenting Consultation?

The fee is $150.00 for a one-hour session. Payment is made online prior to our first appointment.

 

How do I schedule a 60-minute Co-parenting Consultation?

If you are sick and tired of getting nowhere with your ex and/or the court system, talking about change will not improve your children's social and emotional functioning, or your stress levels. If, however, you are ready to commit to an action plan for doing things differently, I can help you. Here's how:

Step 1. Reach out via phone or email. When leaving a message or writing email, please describe your situation in a few sentences and do not include confidential information.

Step 2. Communicate your preferred days/times to schedule a 60-minute session via phone, Skype, doxy.me (<--HIPPA-compliant tele-conferencing), or FaceTime. Once we agree on a date and time, go to Steps 3 and 4...

Step 3. Make payment. Click here for secure online payment with PayPal or credit card (from drop-down menu, click Co-Parenting Consultation option).

Step 4. Complete paperwork forms by clicking here.

Ready to get started? Contact me here.

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I hope to help you discover Your Plan B.