"Help! My narcissistic ex is making my life unbearable. I feel so overwhelmed and hopeless on some days. How can I be a good parent when I'm so stressed out? The court didn't help, I've spent thousands on attorney fees, and I feel like nobody understands how manipulative my ex is. Can you help me?"

...is a common email I get far too often. The shame, stigma, and isolation surrounding high-conflict divorce can make co-parenting a nightmare. I have witnessed the contentious struggles and trauma from overwhelmed and now-single parents whose lives are upended following divorce. Although you bear the pain of seeing your kids less, and having your life dictated by the court order—there is hope for moving forward and defining Your Plan B.

You are not alone.

If you live outside of Los Angeles, California, I offer consultation sessions for co-parenting support. This is a telephone or Skype service, and it differs from psychotherapy. My state license to practice psychotherapy is limited to the state of California.

The difference between consultation and therapy is that I do not view your situation from a medical model/diagnose or treat, or focus on your past or your childhood, or analyze historical roots of negative self-beliefs and behaviors that create low self-esteem.

This article, published by PsychologyToday.com describes the 9 critical steps to successful co-parenting, following divorce from a narcissist, or difficult ex. On average, it is viewed 650+ times daily. Perhaps, you're here as a result...


What is Co-parenting Consultation?

The purpose is to develop a plan to help you:

  • manage your emotional reactions and reduce conflict with your ex
  • learn effective communication skills to avoid repetition of past arguments
  • support your child(ren) with the logistical and emotional challenges of two homes
  • implement parenting techniques to manage manipulation and parental alienation
  • design a personal-care plan so you can experience less overwhelm, and more peace of mind
  • complete homework assignments in-between sessions to increase accountability
  • develop an action-oriented plan to support present and future emotional well-being

 

What Co-parenting Consultation is not

I understand how stressful and traumatic a high-conflict divorce and co-parenting with a difficult ex can be, however, the focus is on moving forward and developing goals to support you and your children emotionally.

When discussing your situation it can be tempting to delve into past grievances, and how you’ve been wronged by your ex, and the court process. While your story is definitely important, doing things differently now and in the future is the primary focus of our work together. For these reasons, boundaries are critical.

  • Co-parenting Consultation is not psychotherapy
  • Co-parenting Consultation does not offer legal advice, or child custody mediation
  • Co-parenting Consultation is not designed to deal with psychological crises, or life threatening situations
  • Co-parenting Consultation is not a resource for reporting allegations of child abuse, or threats of personal, or others’ safety


How do I schedule a Co-parenting Consultation session?

1. Contact me via phone or email. We will set up a time to briefly discuss your situation and see if co-parenting consultation is right for you.

2. Schedule a 50-minute session via telephone, FaceTime or Skype. Some people request one or two sessions, while others want more. The frequency and duration is entirely up to you.

3. Payment is required in advance. Click here for a quick, secure method of online payment using PayPal or credit card. From drop-down menu, click on Co-Parenting Consultation option.

4. Complete paperwork forms by clicking here.

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I hope to help you discover Your Plan B.

Questions? Email me here.